My family is not perfect. We had so many ups and downs; to some extent I grew up thinking that having parents fighting each other is normal. Well, I think that's one of the reason why guidance office became my second home because of all the emotions and issues I had to face on my own, far from them. Don't get me wrong, I'm in good terms with my parents; they're cool but somehow complicated too!
If there's one major love lesson I learned from them, that is loving someone is a decision, not just a fleeting emotion...
During the 1st quarter of the year, I've been away for almost 5-6 weeks and when I went home last week, the first news that welcomed me was that they're in serious LQ mode again. And somehow, I was like "What's new?!"
I went home this Holy Week to sort some personal matters and be with family and friends. It was not my intention not to stay at home but I guess not sleeping at home for the past 2 nights and leaving my parents alone do them good; they were able to talk and somehow sort their relationship.
It was also the time I joked them how difficult it is to "raise parents" these days especially when they had big fight. Every year I hear them say "maghihiwalay na kami!" (We will separate!) I never get used to it so I still get affected whenever they have #LQ!
When I went home last week, I said "oh akala ko ba hiwalay na kayo?!" out of desperation. "Ang hirap magpalaki ng magulang. Ang complicated nyo!"
"Parang hindi ka na nasanay sa amin." Mama would always reply. Daddy said "magkaibigan nalang kami ng mama mo." and I was like "Bahala nga kayo!" 😶
I used to have a very fancy idea of love and relationship; like everything should be smooth and easy... Well, I guess as I mature and open my eyes (and heart) to reality, I am learning to accept that Love is never easy; some relationship will never be perfect and choosing to be in a romantic relationship will always be a Work in Progress!
But then, "Staying and choosing to be in love"
is where you need to put a lot of your energy.
It is tough but it will be worth it.
#Love is a choice and BEING in love is a conscious DECISION you have to make every single day!
Well, I'm happy to know that my parents made their choice! Will they stick to it?! I can only hope and pray! 😂❤🙏🏼
Great Love can overcome any challenges!